Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Monday, June 14, 2010
Suicide watchman saves scores at death spot
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A former life insurance salesman has "sold life" to scores of people trying to end it all at Australia's most notorious suicide spot.
In nearly 50 years Don Ritchie, 84, has saved at least 160 people at The Gap, a rocky cliff at the entrance to Sydney Harbour - and he is still on suicide watch.
Lost souls who stood atop the cliff, wondering whether to jump, say their salvation was a soft voice breaking the sound of the wind and the waves, asking: "Why don't you come and have a cup of tea?"
And when they turned to the stranger, they say his smile made them want to live.
Mr Ritchie, who lives across the street from The Gap, is widely regarded as a guardian angel who has shepherded countless people away from the edge.
What some consider grim, Mr Ritchie considers a gift.
"You can't just sit there and watch them," he said, perched on his beloved green leather chair, from which he keeps a watchful eye on the cliff outside.
"You gotta try and save them. It's pretty simple."
Since the 1800s, Australians have flocked to The Gap to end their lives, with little more than a 3ft fence separating them from the edge. Local officials say around one person a week commits suicide there and in January, Woollahra Council applied for nearly £1.2 million government funding to build a higher fence and tighten security.
In the meantime, Mr Ritchie keeps up his voluntary watch. The council recently named him and his wife of 58 years, Moya, 2010's Citizens of the Year.
He has saved 160 people, according to the official tally, but that is only an estimate. Mr Ritchie does not keep count but says he has watched far more walk away from the edge than go over it.
Dianne Gaddin likes to believe Mr Ritchie was at her daughter's side before she jumped in 2005. Though he cannot remember now, she is comforted by the idea that Tracy felt his warmth in her final moments.
"He's an angel," she says. "Most people would be too afraid to do anything and would probably sooner turn away and run away. But he had the courage and the charisma and the care and the magnetism to reach people who were coming to the end of their tether."
Each morning, Mr Ritchie climbs out of bed, pads over to the bedroom window of his modest, two-storey home, and scans the cliff. If he spots anyone standing alone too close to the precipice, he hurries to their side.
Some he speaks to are fighting medical problems, others suffering mental illness.
Sometimes, the ones who jump leave behind reminders of themselves on the edge - notes, wallets, shoes. Mr Ritchie once rushed over to help a man on crutches, but by the time he arrived, the crutches were all that remained.
In his younger years, he would occasionally climb the fence to hold people back while his wife called the police. He would help rescue crews haul up the bodies of those who could not be saved and would invite the rescuers back to his house afterwards for a comforting drink.
It nearly cost him his life once. A chilling picture captured decades ago by a local news photographer shows Mr Ritchie struggling with a woman, inches from the edge. The woman is seen trying to launch herself over the side - with Mr Ritchie the only thing between her and the abyss. Had she been successful, he would have gone over too.
These days, he keeps a safer distance. The council installed security cameras this year and the invention of mobile phones means someone often calls for help before he crosses the street.
But he remains available to lend an ear, though he says he never tries to counsel, advise or pry. He just gives them a warm smile, asks if they would like to talk and invites them back to his house for tea. Sometimes, they join him.
By offering compassion, Mr Ritchie helps those who are suicidal think beyond the terrible present moment, says psychiatrist Gordon Parker, executive director of the Black Dog Institute, a mood disorder research centre that has supported the council's efforts to improve safety at The Gap.
"They often don't want to die, it's more that they want the pain to go away," Mr Parker said. "So anyone that offers kindness or hope has the capacity to help a number of people."
Friday, June 11, 2010
Friday, May 28, 2010
Note to Self:
Top 10 answers:
-Try to ignore your pride.
-Never assume there's toilet paper.
-always finish what you
(haha i get it)
-Be Excellent to each other
-Don't be afraid to fail.
-Happiness equals reality minus expectations
-Don't sweat the small stuff
-Learn how to count.
-Reduce procrastination. Create awesome stuff.
-Surround yourself with good friends.
Because it was Reddit I had to ignore the perverted answers, so what you are seeing is really a censored summary of the top 15. But the cool thing? I still haven't seen anything about money, power or fame in any of the answers. It's nice to know the lessons people find most important in life don't pertain to the unnecessary things we desire during the day :)
Meh.
I threw up my dinner tonight after fighting the urge for the last 3 days. Now I am lying in bed pouting because it's friday night on Memorial Day Weekend and I don't want to be lying in bed.
FUN FAIL
By the way... did I mention that I'm living in San Diego now? No? Huh.
Friday, March 05, 2010
Changing my life shouldn't sound so simple
This sounds good. I am available for all of the dates listed but as requested my session preferences are:
1.Mar 22, 23 (Mon, Tue)
2.Mar 18, 19 (Thu, Fri )
3.Mar 16, 17 (Tues, Wed)
Thanks,
Summer
Thursday, March 04, 2010
Almost there!
Working at the Arlington location is a big boost to the Moving Fund. $60 yesterday, $55 today. Of all the things I miss from Addison (and I miss them all, trust me OMGIMISSADDISON) I do not miss the $20-$40 I would go home with on a week night. I'm actually looking forward to work tomorrow... Alice in Wonderland in 3D is coming out and I'll (hopefully) make the big bucks in Arlington that Addison always promised but never delivered.
I'm hoping to save MINIMUM $600 by the time I have to move. $1000 would be awesome for gas/food/buffer, but $600 is enough.
It's getting a little better at the new location. The people are sweet and have a good sense of humor. They're a younger crowd and a preppier one. The location is run a whole lot better and the work is easier because of it. But I would trade in a second... I miss my Addison friends :(
Something that Arlington affords me, though, is a safe haven to think. I started getting mad today. The situation with Him, when you step back and look at it from an outsider's perspective, was a crappy one. The Summer who gives relationship advice to her friends ("don't let him treat you like that", "you deserve better", etc) surfaced today and screamed bloody murder at me. The anger hit me hard.
I am still a little hesitant to embrace it. Angry Summer is not Logical Summer (I don't think I've been thinking logically lately anyway). I'm just scared of what this feeling could bring. What's the better evil - to lie around in sorrow or to walk through life in hate?
Wednesday, March 03, 2010
3 decades is a long time
I am not comfortable planning the next 30 years of my life.
That is longer than I have lived.
And I sure as hell know I wont last a week on bare minimum. A girl's got to live a little, no? So this is not going to work. But that's ok. First order of business in loving yourself and having more confidence is accepting who you are. Therefore I, Summer Berdin, accept that I will go out and have fun and be happy at the expense of paying off my financial woes in a timely matter. And as part of that acceptance, I promise to:
1. stay responsible and pay my loan payments first
2. stop worrying about having credit/loan debt
3. use my education to further my money making opportunities, and put all those extra monies towards loan payments
Not bad, eh? Now all I gotta do is start making that $40k a year again.
P.S. I looked him up on the internet. His processing photo is heartbreaking. There is something in his eyes that looks so sad. I couldn't sleep at all last night. He could be an amazing man - he just needs to have faith in himself again.
Tuesday, March 02, 2010
Hello Again, Blog
I would like to gain confidence. Lots of it. But that's not necessarily why I want to start writing in you again. It's just big things keep happening in my life - big joys, big successes, HUGE mistakes - and if I wrote in you more I'd be able to go back and learn from it all. For example, since the last time I wrote in you I
- produced a feature length documentary
- took part in a company uprising
- started/helped start 2 independent businesses (failed at one)
- produced a reality tv pilot
- failed desperately at 2 serious relationships
- became a waiter
- traveled everywhere
- met (and worked with) many brilliant, unique people
- went to SXSW and Carnaval twice
- experienced the birth of my 4th neice
- played soccer for the first time! (FAIL)
- did motivational speaking twice to underprivileged teens
- had the worst. haircut. ever.
Sad, right? You missed all that, and probably more that I've already forgotten.
I really, really should write in you more.
Friday, October 24, 2008
Saturday, June 07, 2008
Friday, May 16, 2008
May 14/15 Tokyo Day 1 and 2:
The total delay time was almost 2 hours. We were supposed to reach Tokyo by 2pm but instead got there around 3:45. We got delayed twice – once in Dallas and once in Houston – both times because of the weather. We even sat on the tarmac in Houston for almost 40 minutes, in our plane with all the other planes beside us, because the airport had to close down due to severe thunderstorms. They fed us 3 times on the way (giving us warm towels in Japanese custom to wash our hands) and the air conditioning danced between a tepid warm to chilling cold. By the time we finally landed at Narita airport one day had gone by and we were all pooped.
SIDENOTE: Something strange (or maybe not?) that I noticed about the flight was the immense amount of babies on board – and the equally immense amount of U.S. military newbies flying to their first training base. There was a boy from Minnesota who sat a few rows down from me absorbing pointers from the vet across the aisle from him. (I say boy because 1. He couldn’t have been older than 20 and 2. He sounded as naïve and innocent as the real babies giggling a few rows down). After we got off the plane he hopped around taking pictures for him family back home… and as we waited for our luggage many other fresh-faced boys stood, disheveled and alone, watching the families pass by.
SIDENOTE 2: On the bus ride to the hotel we got to experience the transition from countryside to urban cityscape. The view from the window went from rice fields (many) to a strange city of concrete – apartment buildings with clothes drying off balconies, cartoon icons and Toyota billboards, bays and waterways spotted by river taxis, multilingual signs (in Japanese and Romanjii – English to us) and the huge mass of not-so-tall tightly knit buildings that resemble an older but cleaner Manhattan. We passed the Tokyo tower (looking like a mini red version of the Eiffel), the Tokyo Disney and many other unique familiar buildings I should know but don’t. The bus announcer kindly reminded us that talking on cell phones in passenger vehicles is considered rude in Japan and the silence would have been awesome medication for how overwhelmed I was feeling if it were not for the loud Greek two seats back arguing on his phone the whole way. Combine that with how tired I was and you get the sorry excuse as to why I took no pictures.
The hotel we’re staying at first (we’re staying at 2 throughout the trip) is the ANA Intercontinental. Most of you will recognize it as part of the chain of hotels that span across the globe. Meriel is an “Ambassador’s Club” member so she got a few gifts when she checked in. The concierge lady felt bad for me so she slipped me a gift too… a pink embroidered handkerchief. Here’s some pics:
We had to save ourselves from jetlag so we walked around until 8pm. Again: everything here is clean and short. No asian-people-are-short pun intended. The people are immaculate in their dress and etiquette, bowing subtlety and speaking softly. The district we’re in must be a business one… everyone is in suits and skirts and nobody is around after 9.
Back at the hotel I tried out the kimonos provided for sleeping and *ssshhhh* the bidet.
May 16 Tokyo Day 3:
Breakfast! No jet lag, so we got up at 8 and went to the buffet downstairs.
I got some sort of muffin, hashbrowns, sweet potato fries and broccoli, finishing it off with some fruit (look Mommy – lychee!).
Some ladies in the lobby were wearing kimonos so I practiced my inner paparazzi and snuck a photo.
We bought our Pasmo Cards (3,000 yen = $30’s worth of subway/bus/train tavel) and took our first subway ride to the Asakusa District.
It’s the more traditional, “old Tokyo”-type part of the city. Apparently it’s also a tourist spot for the Japanese… there were throngs of elder Tokyoites and school children crowding the streets.
We went to the Senso-ji Temple (Buddhist) and picked out fortunes and watched the people pray.
We also walked along the side streets and happened upon a blessing or ceremony of some sort (I think it was a dojo blessing the students – could be totally wrong here).
Then we tried out some fast food sushi, or “Conveyor Belt Sushi.”
Then we took the subway to Akihabara Electric Town… a part of Tokyo that features streets upon streets of discount electronic stories and anime and manga shops.
That’s about it for today. It’s 4:23am here (2:21pm in Dallas) and I should get to sleep. I took a nap when we got home but we’re waking up early tomorrow so it wouldn’t be smart to stay up too late. Night!
P.S. Here's the first batch of vending machines for Urban. A soup machine and a dinner machine.
Monday, April 28, 2008
So, I'm going to Tokyo...
LIFE IS GOOD!
P.S. I've been thinking about getting a tattoo of cherry blossoms behind my right ear because 1. life is good and 2. life is short. Kind of a "remember to appreciate things" tattoo. I swear if I see a cherry blossom in bloom during our trip the tattoo is the first thing I'm buying when I get home. :)
P.P.S. Justin is using this as an opportunity to complain. Seeing as I spend nights at work and work on weekends, I think this trip is ok. It just might be stemming from his fear of living without someone to hold his hand(organization-wise).
P.P.S.S. First Miami then Japan then the Mediterranean Cruise next year? Jared's Mom is a travel-thoner! AND I LOVE IT! I can't wait until I start to make enough to bring them and my parents to cool, exotic places.
XOXOXOXO First senior pics photoshoot job last weekend. Pics turned out awesome and Joseph was very pleased. Next is a just-married couple and some soon-to-be-married friends. Considering I don't even have my business card yet, word is getting around pretty good no? And thanks to Jared for helping me buy the new lens (Nikkor 18-135mm). AWESOME!
XOXOXOXO #2 Congrats to Daddy for the on-going work. He's working overtime, with no end in sight.
Again... Life is good :)
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
Crunch Time
Especially during insomnia time.
Especially during crunch time.
It's crunch time for the documentary. We have until the end of April to produce some kind of rough cut to buyers so that the film can be in theaters nationwide by summer this year. "Yay!" when you think about it, "Boo!" when you actually have to do it. 200+ hours of still unedited footage and no script needs to be bogged down to a feasible hour and 1/2 of movie magic. And we already have 1 hour edited to liking which does not include the 200+ hours of other footage.
Also, Robert (executive producer) is telling me and Justin that, since we'll be part of the marketing/publicity push, we need to start drilling ourselves through fake interviews and preparing for the media rush we are about to endure. Can you imagine?! Media rush! OMG THAT'S SCARY!
I can't even remember two syllable words while writing quietly in the night... how could I put together a sentence in front of multiple camera crew?! And I'll have to shut down my blog! And my myspace!
Oh well. Let's HOPE it gets to that point. It won't be a bad problem to have in this world if the only thing you can complain about is the media not leaving you alone. That would mean you were doing pretty ok. :)
So... since I'm not just Producer now, I'm also Post Supervisor, my list of "Things to Do" has grown exponentially:
Things to Do:
Log last Interviews (Me, Jessica, sometimes Nikki)
Research & Development for facts (Leslie, Ale - soon, sometimes Me)
Make sure Translation/Captioning done by next week (Ale, Sergio, Norm)
Cut footage (Sergio, Norm)
Get stock footage + organize licensing (Me, Robert)
EDIT THE FILM (Justin, Lior, Nikki)
Sell Film, Publicity, Marketing, Distribution (Robert & His Team)
and... wwwwwaaaaaaayyyyyy at the bottom
Register Car
Get new Driver's License
Go to Doctor
Go to Dentist
Start Own Business
Get Business Cards
Make Website
Fix credit
*sigh*
It's kind of weird loving my work. Days will go by where I'll come into work in the morning and suddenly it's 10pm and I still haven't had lunch, but I don't feel tired and I'm happy. A few weeks ago Justin set it up so the studio is half photo studio with the guitar/drums/piano in the corner and half industry-standard movie theater. Now on breaks or at night we sit and watch films and during the day he edits on the big screen. Kinda cool. Robert and Andrew held the first big "Executive Screening" in there of some of our edits for the investors and they loved everything they saw. Andrew cooked Mediterranean that night... again, awesome.
(Did I mention Andrew learned how to cook from an Indian Chef? And that he also does most of his food vegan-style? Hells yeah! And Robert is the best ever because even though he's our boss he barely tells us what to do - he just lets us learn for ourselves and steps in when he sees we need a little guidance. I know that's helped Justin a lot.)
Don't get me wrong... crunch time is not all fun and games. I mean... look at the insomnia and the To Do and the fact that I work long hours (worked all Easter weekend - but really that was mostly for making up the days I had to get my tooth pulled). And crunch time itself is hardly ever fun while it's happening.
But you know - I still go home happy. Cool.
Random:
-YAY Auntie Luz & Uncle Fin!! It was awesome having them here. Pics will be up as soon as I have time (they got to participate in Wii night and I bet Angel & Bim would love to see that).
-It's been years since I've seen Uncle Fin.
-Haha Angel locking her purse out of the house.
-Congrats Cammie on Baptism!
-This Saturday is Keianna's first volleyball game of the season, a must see.
-Countdown to Mediterranean Cruise starts today because tickets were purchased today! Yay! By this time next year I'll be packing for 11 days in Rome/Italy/Turkey/Greece/Rome!!! Yay Meriel!
Sunday, March 09, 2008
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
It's raining EVERYTHING
Texas has always been amazingly boring so when stuff suddenly starts to pop up in one week one tends to become suspicious.
A good thing that happened while I was not reaching my goal was that I finally sat down and figured out my credit. Angels sing. And the results are
*Drumroll Please*
My credit sucks.
I won't go into details but I will say this: that's ok. I had a feeling it would suck and sitting down and confirming that accomplished 2 things:
1. Now I know how much it sucks and
2. I can take that knowledge and start working towards fixing it.
And although this was a slightly overwhelming fork in the road at first, now that it's had time to settle in it's not such a bad thing. It's about time I figure out how to manage my own finances and, if anything, it gives me even more of a reason why I need to start my own business.
Yay taking responsibility!
Note: Another encouraging "start own business" thing is Ale (from work) got a Christmas gift of a one-day "professional" photo shoot. It cost $300 for 5 hours, 3 different "costumes" that she had to bring herself, and the photographer did her makeup and hair. The pics came out really pretty. I asked her what equipment the photographer had and she said none! They shot during the day, mostly in the sunlight, and the "studio" was the lady's garage. She had a lot of bounce boards (reflectors that pick up the sun) instead of lights, and she even used a hairdryer as a windmaker!
I can do that!
Random:
- I told Jared the other day a big secret: I have a HUGE TV crush. I think I'm falling in love with Geof Manthorne from Ace of Cakes. He's scruffy and quiet and works wonders with his hands- such a cutie! I think it might also be because he slightly resembles Jared, but I'm not sure. Jared didn't seem fazed... maybe he doesn't think my TV crush is serious?
- I miss LA. DESPERATELY. It's become a conflict with me, because I love being close to my family and Jared, but I can't stand being in Dallas. What to do?
- Fae (the new kitty) just took a dump. A HARDCORE one. And even though her litter box is far away in a different room, I can smell it so fresh it's almost like she dumped on my arm. G a w d .
Below: 3 Sets of Pics: from the Berdin family annual bi-monthly Wii tournament, Cleo and Fae trying to like each other and the flowers Jared got me for Valentine's Day (with a glimpse of my new apartment in the back). Click on each to make them bigger. :)